We love it when people see their parents as their best friends. There is just something so incredibly heartwarming about a tight-knit family and a close bond, one where you FaceTime one another twice a day, have in-jokes and feel you can talk about anything. But, feeling like you can chat away about any topic under the sun and actually doing it are two very different things.
Most conversations you have your BFF-parents (as packed full of laughs and giggles as they are) tend to be geared more toward things like what you are both up to that week, how work is going, how the kids are getting on, the fact you need a new car. That sort of thing. Rarely do people get into deep and meaningful chinwags where they ask their parents about their lives and experiences; but we should.
These are things that shaped your parents, the things they think about and make them who they are and the lessons they’ve learned from life. With that in mind, we’ve pulled together a list of questions you should ask your parents; the people you’ve always thought you’ve known so well:
- What was your biggest fear when you were raising me?
- What was your life like when you were growing up?
- What were your parents like at the different stages of your life?
- What was the moment in your life that changed you most?
- What’s that one secret you’ve always had the urge to tell me but never felt brave enough to?
- If it didn’t affect you having me, what would be the one thing you would do differently?
- What’s that one regret that eats away at you?
- Where is your favourite place on earth?
- What was your first job?
- Of all of them, which is your favourite family tradition?
- Have you thought about your send-off or wanted to compare funeral directors?
- What do you wish you hadn’t wasted so much time doing?
- Everyone comes across a sudden fork in the road where life would drastically change no matter which you chose, what is the one you remember most and why did you make that decision?
- What’s the one thing you have always wanted to ask me but never felt the time was right?
- If you had a time-machine, what advice would you give your thirty-year-old self?
- What were the hardest challenges you had to overcome in order to bring me up?
- What was the hardest part of being a parent? What was the moment you really struggled with?
- Which parts of me do you think are just like you, and which parts are the opposite?
- Who was your biggest influence in life, and how come they got that honour?
- Who was your first love?
- If you had to pick just one, outside of the cliched answers, what was the happiest moment of your life?
- How would you like to be remembered?